There’s a moment in every woman entrepreneur’s journey when she realizes she’s been pre-rejecting herself.
Not because she lacks the talent, the experience, or the results. But because somewhere along the way, she absorbed the belief that boldness needed to be earned.
That’s the audacity gap—and it’s costing women in business more than we think.
The Gap That’s Hiding in Plain Sight
Women now start 49% of new businesses in the U.S.—a massive increase from just 29% in 2019. We’re not hobbyists or side hustlers. We’re job creators. We’re economy builders.
And we’re outperforming. According to BCG, women-founded startups generate 78 cents per dollar invested, compared to just 31 cents from male-founded ones.
So why are women still charging less, applying less, and stepping back when it’s time to scale?
It’s not a confidence issue. It’s conditioning.
From Playground Praise to Business Patterns
From childhood, many women were taught to be right—not bold. We were praised for being polite, prepared, and perfect. We were warned against risks, urged to be careful, encouraged to color inside the lines.
Fast forward to today, and that praise pattern shows up in sneaky but powerful ways:
- Rewriting captions instead of pitching the podcast
- Sending lowball proposals to “not scare them away”
- Saying no to speaking opportunities unless we feel 100% ready
- Hiring help only once we’ve hit burnout
These aren’t personality quirks. They’re social patterns—and patterns can be changed.
The Hidden Cost of Playing Small
When we choose perfection over action, we:
- Shrink our top of funnel (less visibility = fewer leads)
- Overdeliver and undercharge (leading to burnout)
- Stay in the weeds instead of leading (slowing our growth)
- Wait for permission instead of taking up space
And when this happens at scale, we get fewer women on panels, fewer premium client opportunities, and fewer CEOs scaling beyond the “just me” stage.
Let’s be real: you’re not playing small because you’re unsure. You’re playing small because you were taught to.
Audacity Is Not a Personality Trait
This isn’t about becoming louder or more aggressive. Audacity is:
- Taking up space before you feel ready
- Making offers before everything is perfect
- Raising prices to match the value you already deliver
- Speaking up even when you’re still learning
And yes—it can be trained.
3 Experiments to Build Audacity This Month
Here’s how to put this into practice immediately. These aren’t affirmations. They’re behavior shifts.
1. Build a Visibility System
Pick one “scary” visibility move each month and schedule it. Example:
- Pitch a podcast
- Apply to speak at a local event
- Guest teach in someone’s program
- Go live with a collaborator
Make this a recurring task in your calendar. Treat it like CEO training. Because it is.
2. Price to Outcome and Raise the Floor
Take your last five proposals and ask:
- What transformation did this create?
- What’s that worth in dollars, time, or energy?
Then raise your minimum rate by 10–15%. Not your dream rate—your floor. The one you won’t step under again.
Practice saying that number until it feels clean, not cringey. A well-resourced business needs a well-resourced leader.
3. Start an Audacity Circle
Find 3–5 peers who are also growing.
Once a month, meet and:
- Share a pitch, price, or offer
- Give feedback
- Celebrate attempts, not just wins
You’re rewiring the reward system here. You’re building a muscle. This is CEO work.
This Is Bigger Than You
When you stop rejecting yourself, you make space for others too. You:
- Model boldness to your clients and peers
- Claim resources that let you lead sustainably
- Break cycles that keep women underpaid and under-seen
We don’t need more credentials to step forward. We need more audacity.
So what’s your move this month? Pick one. Take the stage. Send the pitch. Raise the price. And remember:
You are not asking for too much. You are stepping into what you already deliver.
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