Why Authentic Relationships Matter More Than Ever
We live in a world that celebrates being connected, yet loneliness is at an all-time high. Notifications never stop, but real conversations feel rare. If you’ve ever scrolled for an hour and still felt empty, you’re not alone.
Authentic relationships are the antidote to the digital overwhelm. They’re not just good for your soul—they’re essential for your health, happiness, and even your business success. In this post, we’ll explore:
- Why our obsession with screens is costing us connection
- Practical ways to build meaningful friendships as an adult
- How to curate your inner circle for growth and support
- Tips from Sam & Elliot Archuleta, creators of Something More Human
The Problem: We’re Always “On,” But Rarely Present
Here’s the paradox: We have thousands of followers, yet fewer real friends. Technology, while powerful, has made genuine connection harder. Why?
- Distraction overload: Phones demand attention 24/7.
- Surface-level interactions: Likes and comments aren’t conversations.
- Comparison culture: Social media’s highlight reel makes authenticity harder.
We’ve traded depth for dopamine hits. And it’s costing us real connection.
What Sam & Elliot Are Doing About It
Sam and Elliot Archuleta, hosts of the Something More Human podcast, saw the problem—and decided to act. Their solution? Return to Real Life, a series of curated, phone-free events designed to help people experience real, uninterrupted human connection.
Their first event in Albuquerque sold out. No phones, no endless scrolling—just conversations that matter. The response? Overwhelming. People are craving connection, and these events are proof.
“Your phone is the biggest third wheel in your relationships.” – Sam & Elliot Archuleta
The takeaway? Sometimes, we need intentional boundaries to reclaim our ability to connect.
Practical Ways to Build Authentic Relationships (Without Social Media)
Whether you’re in a new city or just feeling disconnected, here’s how to start:
1. Create Phone-Free Zones
Designate times or places where your phone doesn’t go. Dinner tables, coffee dates, or even entire evenings. The absence of a screen changes the energy in the room.
2. Be Intentional About Meeting People
Authentic friendships don’t happen by accident. Join interest-based groups, attend events, or—even better—host your own. (Tip: Steal Sam & Elliot’s idea and make it phone-free!)
3. Start Small Conversations in Big Places
At the coffee shop? In line at the grocery store? Skip the scroll and strike up a conversation. Micro-interactions build social confidence.
4. Curate Your Inner Circle
Not everyone deserves front-row seats in your life. Sam & Elliot recommend filtering for these qualities:
- People who talk ideas, not gossip
- Friends who hold you accountable and tell the truth
- Those who can celebrate your wins without resentment
5. Let Your Freak Flag Fly
Authenticity attracts authenticity. When you show up as your real self—quirks and all—you attract people who love the real you.
The Role of Vulnerability
Connection requires courage. If you’re waiting to feel confident before you open up, you’ll be waiting forever. Vulnerability is the bridge to intimacy. Start small: share a personal story, admit when you don’t know something, or express how you really feel.
“One authentic friend beats 20 surface-level acquaintances.” – Sam & Elliot Archuleta
How Authentic Relationships Impact Your Business
If you’re an entrepreneur, the quality of your relationships matters more than any growth hack. Here’s why:
- Opportunities flow through people. Referrals, collaborations, and partnerships come from trust.
- Support prevents burnout. Business can be isolating. A strong inner circle keeps you grounded.
- Clarity through conversations. Talking things out with people who get it can spark your best ideas.
In short: strong relationships aren’t just nice to have—they’re a competitive advantage.
Where to Start (Today)
- Identify one person you’d like to connect with more deeply. Send them a voice note or invite them for coffee.
- Host a screen-free dinner with a few friends. (Collect phones in a basket at the door.)
- Audit your inner circle: Who energizes you? Who drains you?
Final Thought: Connection Takes Intentionality
Sam & Elliot’s work is a reminder that real connection isn’t dead—it’s just waiting for us to put down our phones long enough to experience it. If you want deeper friendships, more meaningful conversations, and a stronger support system, the formula is simple: less scrolling, more showing up.
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